Thank you for considering me for your therapeutic journey. A little bit about me: I am a first generation Latina, born and raised in the Inland Empire. I grew up with typical Latinx culture and values, which is an emphasis on family and community. In some Latin families, fathers are unquestionably the head of the households and the mothers are dedicated to serving the family.
While some of these traditions have changed, some Latin families still hold these traditions closely, mine included. The Latinx community can often times be very private and may not want to talk about challenges at home or with their mental health.
At the age of 19, I was sexually assaulted. This night was a turning point in my life, nothing was ever the same for me. I was shocked and confused about what had happened, especially because my perpetrator was someone I knew and trusted. Before the #MeToo movement, speaking about sexual assault was complex and it still is. People who experienced sexual assault often times were made to feel as if it was “their fault” for the way they dressed, acted, or placed in a certain situation.
The healing process was not linear.
I found that in my journey I would start, stop and then start again. For many years I felt it was best to pretend the assault did not happen and avoid memories about that night. I quickly discovered that trauma reared its ugly head and was present in my relationships (romantic and non-romantic), communication with others, self-esteem and mental health. The guilt, shame, and cultural stigma surrounding mental health held me back from seeking professional help. I refused to tell others about my story (especially my parents), I held this dirty secret close to my heart and lived with the constant fear that my loved ones would look at me differently and judge me.
Is this you? Do you still hold these dirty secrets?
I share this piece of information (or my dirty laundry) with you because I firmly believe that my journey has led me to where I am today. I am open with my story and I am vulnerable with you because I know what it is like to live with dirty secrets. I sit with you, not above you. Through the power of therapy I can help you leave the past behind and focus on rebuilding yourself. You deserve to take your power back and live life unapologetically, fearless, authentic.. live life as YOU.
Is therapy for me?
Does this ring a bell?:
- being extremely self-critical
- see the world as “black and white” “up or down” “left or right“
- saying “yes” too often and overextending yourself for others
- being afraid of letting people “get too close”
- sensitivity to perceived rejection, real or not
- feel that others are more deserving of success
- feel unqualified and “not enough” in different aspects of life: work, school, relationships, family and so on
- getting lost in your own thoughts
- struggling with a healthy work-life balance
- constantly apologizing for expressing your feelings
- avoiding speaking up in class/work
- avoiding the weight section at the gym from the fear of “looking stupid“
“We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty”-Maya Angelou
The truth is..
We have all struggled at one point of our life, yes, even that one person that looks like they have their shit together. We are collectively living our life the best way we know how. No, we don’t have control of the unfair, rotten or complicated things that have happened to us. BUT! We do have complete control of our life and our choices. I invite you to try something new, something different. Create a new path for yourself, even if it sounds a bit scary. Let’s create a life that you love, with all its ups, downs and the messy middle parts.
Dicen que nadie cambia de la noche a la mañana, pero se equivocan. Uno se puede levantar un día y decir.. ya no más .
- Master of Social Work, California State University of San Bernardino, 2021
- Bachelor of Arts Sociology, California State University of San Bernardino, 2018
Board of Behavioral Sciences Associate Clinical Social Worker # 104353
- Certificate of Completion, Motivational Interviewing in Addiction, June 2020
- Certificate of Completion, DBT Skills Course, May 2020
- Phi Kappa Phi Honor Society
- Alpha Kappa Delta International Honor Society
- Best Departmental Paper Award 2018 “Understandings of race, discrimination, and inequality in the Obama Era”
- Kaiser Permanente Mental Health Stipend