Have You Thought About What I Asked You?
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Friends, about a week ago, I asked you to pick a life domain that you wanted to focus on this year. This is a tool to help us look at those domains further.
Friends, about a week ago, I asked you to pick a life domain that you wanted to focus on this year. Above is a tool to help us look at those domains further.
If you need a refresher on what I asked about last week, or want to forward it to a friend, you can catch it in my Blog.
Read the previous article here
Take a look at this wheel and shade in the extent to which you are satisfied with each area of your life. You can also change the domains to be more specific or label your own wheel completely.
Once you have labeled your domains, come face to face with how satisfied you are in each area. Where are you the most satisfied? Where are you the least satisfied? Why do you think that is?
What feelings come up for you as I asked you to think about how satisfied each of those areas make you?
I imagine there was some degree of discomfort rating how happy you are with your current financial situation, your intimate relationships, your health, or the amount of free time you have.
That discomfort is meant to move you...
Friends, are you willing to bring an unsatisfying life area into major focus this year?
If you answered 'yes', I'm happy for you. I think you'll get a lot out of the materials that come through these emails.
If you answered 'no', I am still happy for you because change is difficult to everyone in different ways. You can still honor your own resistance and move at your own pace. You can be self-compassionate and scared at the same time.
If you are ready...
Believing in your ability to do incredible things (i.e. change) should be founded in the belief system that you are inherently worthy.
Brene Brown, Ph.D. defines worthiness as "the conviction that you are good enough as you are, flaws and all, and that you deserve to be loved."
With inherent worthiness, you are making up the most powerful narrative you can about yourself—that you are always worthy of love and to be loved. Through that self-love, you can navigate this life and do what is difficult.
You can read an excerpt from Brene Brown's book, Rising Strong, where she talks about lovability, below.
If you are willing to live by the narrative that you are inherently worthy and ready for all that you want, stay tuned.
There is more to come on this topic of goals, fulfillment, and the emotional material that gets in the way. I'm here for it.
In therapy, these are the mindsets we dive into to help meet our goals. Therapy helps keep us accountable to our true selves and figure out what is most important to do in this life.
Practice Place
Here is a blank wheel for you to practice with as often as you like.
Download your Blank Wheel Of Life here.
Identify the 8 most relevant life areas you exist in. For example:
Mental Health
Physical Health
Financial Literacy
Passion/Pleasure
Social/Family
Professional
Intellectual
Culture
Rate on a scale of 0-10 how aligned you are in each of those domains.
If I rated my 'Culture' domain, a score of 2, which would mean 'low alignment', what activities am I engaging in that create the incongruence? What behaviors, beliefs, or feelings would represent congruence with what I want and what is currently happening? Am I willing to get into alignment for this area to see the success I want?
Questions to ask yourself:
What would I do more of?
What would I do less of?
What currently makes me uncomfortable (think avoidance)?
Where am I self-sabotaging?
Where am I maximizing strengths and talents?
What would I think of myself if I started doing X?
What would I believe about the world if I stopped doing X?
I want to know what restores the balance.
More on this next week, so challenge yourself to find the domain you want to reconcile this year.
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SPECIAL INVITATION
Struggling to narrow down your domain? Send me and email and let me help you out! Want to share your goals with me? I'd LOVE to see them! I am here to CHEER YOU ON! Email me at kasey@cultureoftherapy.com
